Heartbreaking Reason Mom Shares Brutal Baby Sleep-Training Clip—’Proud? No’

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A mom has gone viral on TikTok after opening up about the difficulties of trying to get any sleep with a new baby.

Tiffany Remington regularly documents her day-to-day life as a mom in Chicago, Illinois, which means capturing the great moments, and the not-so-perfect ones. After spending over an hour trying to get her 8-month-old son, Khai, to sleep in his crib, Remington decided to share the footage of how she felt to show people the realities of motherhood.

The video shows Remington doing her best to sway Khai to sleep, but the sleep-deprived mom bursts into tears as she can’t get him to go down. After opening up about that difficult moment, Remington told Newsweek that she is “committed to sharing the real and honest parts of motherhood,” and to reassure anyone else who is struggling “that they aren’t alone.”

It wasn’t an easy decision to share such a vulnerable moment on her account (@ustheremingtons) five days ago, but Remington has been heartened by the response since doing so. The clip has already been viewed more than 5.5 million times and been liked more than 868,000 times by appreciative parents.

Tiffany Remington, from Chicago, Illinois, shared her experience after struggling to get her 8-month-old son to sleep. The mom had minimal sleep and felt incredibly overwhelmed in that difficult moment.

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Remington said: “We have been co-sleeping the past four months. We are working on transitioning him to his own room and crib, but I haven’t had a stretch of sleep longer than 90 minutes for the past eight months. I am overwhelmed, overtired, overtouched, tapped out, and have been struggling mentally to keep composure with the sleep deprivation.

“I initially would have edited this out of the video, but realized it was a very real moment and I wanted to share it to validate those who have experienced it and show that they’re not alone,” Remington added.

Safe Sleep Recommendations

To give any child the safest sleep environment possible, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) doesn’t recommend co-sleeping in a bed or anywhere else. Its experts say that the safest practice is for a baby to sleep on their back using a firm and flat surface, such as a crib or bassinet.

However, for parents who do still want that proximity with their baby, the AAP suggests room sharing for the first six months, which can decrease the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) by 50 percent. This can be beneficial for regular feeding and provides an added comfort for parents, but babies are still safe in their own bed.

As a sleep consultant for Hubble Connected, and founder of The Baby Days, Tami Wornham previously spoke to Newsweek about the things parents can do to help their child develop a healthy sleep routine.

She said: “The secret to getting your baby to sleep anywhere is lots of practice from a young age. Get them used to sleeping in different places: in their pram, sling, cot, relatives’ houses; anywhere you’re wanting to visit.”

Wornham also recommends using a white-noise machine, timing naps to coincide with car journeys, and encouraging babies to nap in a lighter room so they don’t become dependent on being in a dark area.

Wornham added that “parents might rush their bedtime routines when they have lots of things to do,” but they need to take the time to help their child unwind. “If your baby mirrors your anxious emotions, they won’t settle,” she told Newsweek.

The Positive TikTok Response

Social media often shows the seemingly perfect side of life, with content creators who seem like they have everything put together and nothing could ever go wrong. However, Remington wants to show the other side of parenting, and to “destigmatize and normalize” the postpartum.

Alongside the viral video, Remington wrote on TikTok: “Is this my most proud moment? No. But there is an important message at the end of this video.”

Trying to get Khai to sleep in his own crib has been testing for Remington, but she will keep going and continue sharing every moment with her social-media followers, too. Any sort of adjustment with a child can take a while, which is why Remington shares things “on a realistic timeline,” because parents are often in such a rush to see rapid results.

“The unwavering support was so gratifying,” Remington told Newsweek. “I loved seeing women and moms supporting other women. Society doesn’t understand that you can be sad, frustrated, overwhelmed, overworked, overtired, mad, and be grateful, blessed, and love your children to the Earth’s core. Both can be true and can coexist at the same time.

“There are a ton of amazing mom creators who do a fantastic job of sharing the beautiful and exciting parts of motherhood, and they give honest content like mine a good balance.” Remington said. “Sugar-coating everything is what makes things harder, so I truly believe the more you are exposed to, the better postpartum can potentially be as you can have more time to process and build your community of support.”

Remington wasn’t sure what to expect from the social-media reaction, but with over 19,000 comments on her post at the time of writing, many TikTok users praised her for being so transparent.

One commenter wrote: “You’re doing amazing mama! This is the real and rawness of parenthood! Been there and it’s hard! I commend you for having the courage to share this! This is such a vulnerable moment to share.”

Another person responded: “This is motherhood. You are not alone and we are all crying with you.”

Another comment reads: “Actually cried watching this. You’re an inspiration for having the guts to post this and all of us mamas truly hear you and feel you. So proofs you’re able to overcome and break the cycle.”

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