What does your drink of choice say about you? For one man, it says he’s comfortable with himself and is fine keeping bar staff on their toes.
In a video posted on TikTok, the user @dswizzle__ showed her partner with his drink of choice: a strawberry daiquiri. As he drank the pink, fruity drink, text in the video said, “Be with a man who is comfortable with his drink choice no matter what.”
In the video’s caption, the poster added that nine times out of 10, servers tried to give her his drink. The video has received more than 330,000 views and 40,000 likes since it was posted on March 29, with viewers praising the poster’s partner for being comfortable with his drink choice.
Newsweek has contacted @dswizzle__ for comment via TikTok.
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In the video’s comments section, one user wrote, “I actually love it when they order the pink sparkly drinks, it’s more attractive somehow!”
Other men commented that they felt represented, as they either didn’t care what their drinks looked like or preferred nice-looking drinks.
“I don’t care what the drink looks like haha. give me a fruity deluxe for all I care,” a user wrote.
“Dang, found my long-lost brother,” another commenter wrote, adding, “We stan a queen who lets us drink what’s good and pretty.”
Why Men May Be Uncomfortable With What’s ‘Good and Pretty’
In a study published in the journal Sex Roles, researchers investigated the discomfort men feel when performing behaviors that run counter to their gender stereotypes—like having a fruity drink.
In a series of experiments, researchers found that men felt less self-conscious when they “endorsed masculinity at lower levels”—that is, when they believed that men could perform “female stereotypic behaviors,” which include doing chores and taking care of children. The discomfort men feel can be largely attributed to the expectation that they will be misclassified as gay, the authors wrote.
Researchers also found that men are more self-conscious about performing “gender norm violations” than women are.
The authors concluded that men “need to understand that imagining performing certain feminine behaviors in front of others does not make them appear gay.” Even gay men can, and do, often perform both feminine and masculine behaviors. Understanding this, they said, could pave the way for not only changed gender norms but also better interactions between gay and straight men.
Those commenting on the TikTok video posted by @dswizzle__ applauded her partner on his self-assuredness in ordering a fruity drink wherever he goes, but some maintained one qualm.
“The only part I don’t support is using a straw on a drink with a rim,” one user wrote. “Because we’re here for the whole experience.”
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