A man went on sex strike with his wife when he couldn’t her “reward/punishment” system for sexual favors any longer.
Dubious Reddit users were invited to give their verdicts on the astonishing marital arrangement by the frustrated man in his two long-winded posts as Apprehensive-Tie7252.
“Mind-Blowing Sex”
He explained how his wife of seven years changed their previously healthy and communicative relationship over the past few months. Offers of “mind-blowing sex” were made conditional on him performing her share of the chores, or providing gifts.
Her strategy initially intrigued the original poster (OP), but soon, “I could not take it anymore,” he confided to Redditors.
“I started refusing her advances because it’s such a turn-off for me.”
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He confronted her about the sudden change in her behavior. His wife’s justification—that extra effort in the relationship aroused her—was met with skepticism and concern.
“You are not a dog”
User comments on the thread claimed that such transactions are unhealthy in a relationship. As one user pointed out, “You are not a dog. You are a person.
“This is manipulative, and you probably should have said something at first.”
Another emphasized, “Sex cannot be transactional in a relationship. Did your wife see some dumbass TikTok, or something, that said this was a good idea? Because it’s not at all. Her reaction also isn’t great.
“Communication is everything in a relationship and it doesn’t sound like she’s emotionally equipped to handle that.”
This story reflects broader issues in marriage, as explored by experts. Psych Central points out common mistakes couples make and offers tips for mutual understanding and respect.
Psychology Today warns against transactional interactions with one’s spouse, calling for interaction over transaction to keep the emotional and relational health of a partnership.
“Our love and sex life will level up”
After a heated confrontation and a period of reflection, the couple had a candid discussion about their relationship, dealing with misunderstandings and emotional needs.
Their conversation led to a mutual apology and a commitment to better communication, highlighting the importance of addressing issues directly and empathetically in a relationship.
“The problem is solved and I would say with that challenge, our love and sex life will level up from the looks of it,” the OP said.
Newsweek has contacted Apprehensive-Tie7252 for comment via Reddit.
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